Change, is a motherfucker. Those words hit and look kind of harsh, don’t they? Truth is, some of us have more trouble with the first word than we do the last one. Change can do that to ya.
It can take us places in our emotional, mental, and physical worlds we never expected.
Some of us claim we easily embrace Change. And some of us avoid it like the… well you know.
Maybe you’re more like me; I’m not real welcoming to Change. In fact, I throw a side-eye to anyone claiming to be excited or happy about it. But I’m not totally salty. I just treat it like I do death and taxes – a part of Life I don’t particularly care for.
Maybe because I came by my frenemy relationship with Change the hard way.
I used to hold on tightly to the way things were, even if the way things were sucked.
At least, I told myself, I knew how badly they would suck. I had learned how to steel my body/my mind against the expected pains of suckiness. I didn’t move until the pain of not moving out of the suckiness was greater than the fear of moving into Change.
I mean I thought I could cheat… you know, be incremental and slow. Let changes happen little by little so it wouldn’t hurt so much.
I would settle, let the lack grow exponentially, shrinking down my world, diminishing me, lowering how I would show up, how I would interacted and when.
Because I refused to move into Change, I began to accept what was less than what was best for me. I would settle, let the lack grow exponentially, shrinking down my world, diminishing me, lowering how I would show up, how I would interacted and when. My beliefs shrank and my misbeliefs grew.
Change can be a great motivator or it can lay your shit bare.
My perspective had to shift. My acceptance of Change had to change.
I’m not gonna lie – it was hard. But one of the best lessons my relationship with Change taught me is pain is temporary, suffering is eternal, and seeking Peace can help with both. AND I get to choose daily which side of that lesson I want to learn.
I know Change is coming for me. How I let it show up in my life will determine how I show up in yours. NOW is a good time to work with Change in my life.
For the coming weeks, months and in some cases years ahead, Life as we know will be different. We will have to change the ways we interact and how we spend our time, money and energy.
…pain is temporary, suffering is eternal, and seeking Peace can help with both.
And maybe Change in and if itself isn’t a problem for you. Maybe it’s being more Honest about what you think or how you feel. Maybe it’s being more Compassionate in your tone when you talk. Maybe it’s being Wise enough to know you should shut up. Maybe it’s stepping up and being of Service instead of hanging back, waiting for someone else to step into the gap.
Yes, you’ll have frustrating moments and freakouts and want to give up.
And you’ll also gain insights, a little self-acceptance and find greater appreciation for the you that YOU already are.
So cut the bullshit and accept the lessons that can help you be the best damn you there is.
Whatever you’re working with, working on or working through, know that you will have Time in this crisis, however long it lasts, that will give you ample opportunity to grow or diminish.
This is a good time to practice on what needs practicing. It may not sound like it, it may not look like and frankly, it may not feel like it. And that’s okay. Trust me, it will get good, real good, once you start.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I have some changing to do…